Why Married Women Loose And The Sweet Heart Wins
Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
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s soon as a woman gets married she run the risk, of thinking that she had the man in a legal choke hold. She acts as if he cannot do a thing now. At the same time, she does not see that her own women friends are trying to put in a bid for the man.
The way she conducts herself. Her perceptions in general. A woman will see thirty other women in the place, but act as if she is the only woman in there. She is every woman. She is the only one cute. In the marriage, they behave the same way, and this gives the sweet heart the edge that she wanted. She will blame her problem on being fat, or blame it on her fingernails on her hairstyles. At the same time, none of these is the real problems.
SENDING THE WRONG MESSAGE:
Many women find it difficult to send the right message; the man has to decode every thing. A man making love to a woman. She complain that she is being hurt, it is hot, he is going too deep in her, actually what she mean is that it sweet her. The man pulls out because he thinks she is being hurting like she says. Them she blames him for pulling out when she is making her peek, or coming.
SENSIBILITY:
It is important to use your sense. The woman can invite out the man. To invite out is not a man’s job only, if the man give the woman his number and say “call me” Call him. Telling your friends about how deep the man touches you, could be the reason why you cannot keep him, don’t you think that your friends is going to want to taste what he got. Stop advertising the man. If you like what you are getting, say it to the man. Not to your friends, unless you want to share it.
AVAILABILITY ABILITY:
Availability is the key in any relationship. If you are an employer, and one of your employee, always late, but he/she always turn up, and the other employee is a good worker but never turn up, you might bear with such a one for a while but finally you will have to let him or her go. Availability is the key in any relationship. Most women are working on their cuteness and are ignoring all the other important factors.
SHAPING THE FAT.
Men are not really worried about big hip, or big butt, what they hate is a big belly. Look at these women in the picture their hips is looking great, and they got almost no waist line, or very small waist
Big belly can be control. From surgery to weight lifting. All these can bring down a big belly. I have seen women in Jamaica wear a tight girdle around the belly. This forces the fat down to the buttocks. Fat like every thing else have to respond to gravity. Big belly is sometime cause from impacted intestine. A colonoscopy can wash out all that dung and bring the belly down.
Examination of the colon by means of a colonoscopy. Also called ceroscopy.
DEALING WITH GRIEVANCE.
If you the woman that is living with the man do not know how to process hear says, grievances and find the underlying cause of the truth you will never be able to keep a man.
Always leave place for reconciliation has to chip in after an argument. Do not say too much and do too much; do not make too much a deep cut, so when the misunderstanding clear up the healing process and the reconciliation’s process cannot chip in. Remember you are not dealing with an enemy and it a misunderstanding you both are having. If the man is not attacking you physically and abusing you verbally, do not call police to come lack him up. If he did not pull a weapon, you must not pull any.
YOU CANNOT GO TO FAR FROM THE BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES AND EXPECT TO PROSPER:
1 Cor. 7:2-5 (KJV) Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. [3] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. [4] The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also, the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. [5] Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Ephes. 5:23-33 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. [24] Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives are to their own husbands in every thing. [25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; [26] That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, [27] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. [28] So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. [29] For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourished and cherished it, even as the Lord the church: [30] For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. [31] For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. [32] This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. [33] Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
1 Peter 3:1-9 (KJV) Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; [2] While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. [3] Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; [4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. [5] For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: [6] Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. [7] Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. [8] Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: [9] Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
Proverbs 11:9-AV An hypocrite with [his] mouth destroyed his neighbor: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.
Proverbs 24:4-AV And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
Hosea 4:6-AV My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.
ATTENTION GETTING THAT AGGRAVATES THE MAN IS NOT SMART.
Do and say things that will improve relationship, do not do, and say things that will only causes hurt, divisions, and drive the family apart.
Beware of hear says. Do not take hear says against your husband.
Proverbs 14:1 (KJV) Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1 a [Every wise woman ... foolish] Six contrasted classes: 1. The wise woman (Proverbs 14:1)
2. The foolish woman
3. The righteous (Proverbs 14:2)
4. The wicked and perverse
5. The foolish man (Proverbs 14:3)
6. The wise man
b [wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands] The wise woman through proper management increases the property, furniture, food, and clothing of the household, but the thriftless woman causes these blessings to depart.
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:7 (KJV) For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. Romans 5:8 (KJV) But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:9 (KJV) Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. Romans 5:10 (KJV) For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:11 (KJV) And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
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