How To Get People To Do Things For You
By Dr. J. A McBean.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
T he story was told about a twelve-year-old girl who was molested by her pastor. Even though it was not necessarily a force rape, the girl was under age and that made it rape. The pastor pierced her with himself, and did it so bad that the judge give him nine years in prison, a small price for the physical and emotional harm done to her. The pastor would have gotten away free as a bird if he was not ruff, because the girl refuses to tell the doctor who did it to her. The reason why the pastor was so ruff, is based on the concept that we men who grew up in that part of the world bad. As a boy growing up on the island, I was told when making love to a woman, “Make the woman scream, then she respect you, make her bleed, make her run leave her underclothing” With this concept we think we were a good lover, but that only makes us black men pick up rape charge and have no women to turn to. What we invest in people is what we will get back in life. Treat every one as a potential customer, do not throw people away. Do not bury a dog if he is not dead. Do not hurt people on purpose then expect them to love you. Some pastors wonder why they cannot get any offerings from their people; they failed to see that they are beating up the people Sunday after Sunday.
POOR PUBLIC RELATIONSHIP.
One of the main reasons why people get into trouble is because of low moral and poor public relationship concept. We cannot treat people bad and expect to get them to do us good in return. Human nature does not work that way. Human nature is base on biting back, evil for evil, rape charge for ruff sex, meanness for meanness. You never call me so I stop calling you, you act like you do not want me so you could go to the moon for all I care, you can do without me I can certainly do without you also.
NEVER BE SARCASTIC OR SPEAKING DOWN TO PEOPLE.
1 Kings 12:6 (KJV) And king Rehoboam consulted with the old men, that stood before Solomon his father while he yet lived, and said, How do ye advise that I may answer this people? 1 Kings 12:7 (KJV) And they spake unto him, saying, If thou wilt be a servant unto this people this day, and wilt serve them, and answer them, and speak good words to them, then they will be thy servants for ever.
YOU MUST ANSWER PEOPLE GOOD.
Proverbs 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
YOU MUST SERVE THE PEOPLE GOOD.
Luke 6:38 (Living) For if you give, you will get! Your gift will return to you in full and overflowing measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use to give--large or small--will be used to measure what is given back to you."
YOU MUST SPEAK GOOD WORDS TO PEOPLE.
Proverbs 16:24 (KJV) Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
Genesis 37:4 (Living) His brothers of course noticed their father's partiality, and consequently hated Joseph; they couldn't say a kind word to him.
Every thing you say to people must never be intend to hurt their feeling, even in an argument you must be saying things that will explain your positions rather than trying to provoke, cut down and defame.
PREACHERS MISQUOTING THE SCRIPTURES.
Rev. 22:15 (KJV) For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremonger, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie. Rev. 22:15 (Living) "Outside the city are those who have strayed away from God, and the sorcerers and the immoral and murderers and idolaters, and all who love to lie, and do so.
Christians throw these verses at people who are not Christians. But a close examination of the entire text, show that this verse is not talking about the regular none Christians in every ages. It is talking about the people outside of the Millennium city. People who have escape the deluge of the great tribulation and entered into the Millennium kingdom, and saw all the glory of God, yet allow themselves to be shut out of the city. What this verse is not saying is that every unconverted person to Christianity is dogs and such like. The scriptures are not saying that. Preachers said that when there is somebody in the congregation that they want to curse out but cannot take on the person to their faces. They hide behind the pulpits and misquote these verses, and bring down swift damnation upon themselves and their family. It is not good to preach curses at people, because these verses when use out of it context and time frame, hurt people and drives them a way from the lord. We Christians causes Islam to prosper. We even quotes verses that are not in the Bible. Verses such as “My spirit will not dwell in an unclean vessel” Such a verse is not in the Bible. Preachers get away with it because people are not reading their Bibles and ask them to show where such a verse is.
Rev. 22:1-5 (KJV) And he shewed me a pure river of water of life, clear as crystal, proceeding out of the throne of God and of the Lamb. [2] In the midst of the street of it, and on either side of the river, was there the tree of life, which bare twelve manner of fruits, and yielded her fruit every month: and the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations. [3] And there shall be no more curse: but the throne of God and of the Lamb shall be in it; and his servants shall serve him: [4] And they shall see his face; and his name shall be in their foreheads. [5] And there shall be no night there; and they need no candle, neither light of the sun; for the Lord God giveth them light: and they shall reign for ever and ever.
Rev. 22:14-15 (KJV) Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. [15] For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremonger, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.
GIVING HONOR TO THE WIFE.
1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving HONOR unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
It is important to know that God did not put any clause in these verses. The husband must exercise knowledge as he deal with the wife. The husband must give HONOR to his wife, no name-calling is allowed in the marriage. Even if the wife is nasty and sloppy he must still continue do all these things, there was no “If” in these.
SEEK TO PLEASE HER HUSBAND.
1 Cor. 7:34 (KJV) ---- but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Ephes. 5:33 (KJV) Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
The wife must seek to please her husband even if he is lazy and is a names caller. The reason why we keep having problem in all we do is because we keep putting clauses in things that God did not put any in.
GETTING THE BEST OUT OF YOUR SUPERVISOR.
You bound to get the best because you are giving your best.
Titus 2:9 (KJV) Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again;
Ephes. 6:6 (KJV) Not with eyeservice, as men pleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;
Col. 3:22 (KJV) Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eye service, as men pleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God:
Let us face the fact, no matter how much education we had on a subject we can go out there and made the worst mistakes of our life, that cause us dearly. Only Jesus Christ can help us with our decision-making.
Proverbs 3:6 in all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Psalm 34:8 (NASB-U) O taste and see that the Lord is good; How blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!
SOMETIME ONLY JESUS CAN HELP US
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
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